Life can throw some curve balls at you, especially when you least expect them. They can knock the wind out of you for a short period of time, but what happens when you’re continually bombarded with curve balls from different directions, day in and day out?

For many of us, those curve balls don’t arrive gently. They show up in the form of unexpected bills, relationship challenges, work stress, health issues, emotional overwhelm, or the subtle but heavy weight of simply trying to hold everything together. At first, we might handle one or two with grace—but when life throws them repeatedly, without time to recover or breathe, something inside begins to dim. You start operating in survival mode instead of living with intention. You become reactive instead of grounded. And the truth is, nobody teaches us what to do when life becomes relentless.

This is when we end up giving up, sitting down, and packing away our heart’s desires in favour of what life is throwing at us—the curve balls. And then we lose our spark.

That moment of giving up rarely looks dramatic. It often looks like settling. Like shrinking. Like telling yourself “maybe another time” or “maybe this isn’t my season.” It looks like deferring your dreams because life feels too heavy. It looks like forgetting you were once someone with hope, excitement, passion, and joy. When the curve balls become familiar, we begin to normalise them—and without realising it, we unconsciously silence the part of us that still wants more.

What do I mean by losing your spark? I mean the thing that makes you who you are. Your vibe, your energy, your enthusiasm for life, for the things you love, and for who you are. When we lose this, we totally lose ourselves.

Your spark is your inner light—the thing that makes people sense your presence before you even speak. It’s the part of you that dreams boldly, laughs loudly, creates freely, and moves through life with curiosity instead of fear. When your spark is alive, you feel connected to yourself. You wake up with purpose. You recognise your gifts. You know you’re meant for more.

When your spark fades, everything becomes heavier. You doubt yourself more. You hesitate more. You stop seeing possibilities and start seeing problems. And the saddest part is that many people walk around believing this dimmed version of themselves is permanent.

It isn’t. You can always get your spark back.

Now you understand what I mean by spark, here are three things you can do to get your spark back if you’ve misplaced it. And if not, you can use them to keep your spark alive!

1. When life throws you a curve ball, don’t avoid or run from it.

Practice your catching skills. Stand up and catch whatever is being thrown at you. By doing this, you give yourself the opportunity to examine the curve ball and see what’s in the situation—because there’s a lesson for growth there. By standing up and catching it, instead of going into avoidance, you stop your imagination from running wild and making up all types of stories about what’s in the curve ball. You put yourself in control.

Most people assume that avoiding pain will keep them safe. But avoidance creates more anxiety, not less. When you avoid the curve ball, the story you build in your mind becomes bigger than reality. That story takes your spark hostage. Catching the curve ball is not about loving the challenge—it’s about reclaiming your power. It’s about saying, “I am willing to look at this with clear eyes.” In that moment, you switch from powerless to powerful. You remind yourself that growth rarely comes wrapped in comfort.

2. Acknowledge that you’re afraid of how things will turn out—then flip it.

Ask yourself, “What if…?”

What if there’s an opportunity here? What if there’s something I need to learn? Now you’re searching for the positives in the situation, which helps keep your spirit alive, keeping your spark turned on within you.

Fear thrives where there is uncertainty, but it loses its power when you challenge it with curiosity. “What if…” is a spiritual and psychological disruptor. It interrupts fear-based thinking and opens the door to possibility. This is how you shift your emotional energy. Instead of anticipating loss, you begin anticipating lessons, blessings, and unexpected breakthroughs. This simple reframe strengthens your resilience and keeps your inner spark glowing even in difficult times.

3. Know that whatever life throws at you, you have the ability to handle it.

Why? Because you’re responsible and you take responsibility for your life and the actions you take. Knowing this helps you stay optimistic and confident that you are in control of you.

Responsibility is not about blame, it’s about ownership. When you believe you can handle what comes, you stop feeling threatened by the unknown. Confidence doesn’t come from knowing the future, it comes from knowing yourself. This is the foundation of emotional resilience and the birthplace of unwavering self-belief. When you trust yourself, you stop dimming your light to match the situation. Instead, you rise to meet it.

You set the course of your life, not the events that happen. It’s how you respond to the situations that determines the outcomes. So let’s know we have the ability to respond, from a place of knowing we are in control of our lives.

Even when life throws multiple curve balls, your spark doesn’t have to go missing, because now, you have a strategy. Even if the first one catches you unawares, you’ll be ready for the next, and the next.

And this is the difference between people who rise and people who remain stuck: the rising ones don’t wait for life to stop being difficult. They learn how to stay connected to themselves in the middle of the difficulty. That is emotional maturity. That is self-belief. That is the spark returning.

You no longer have to give up or give in. You can stand up with your spark intact, equipped with the tools and knowledge of what to do to keep going when times are rough.

Ready to reclaim your spark?

Ready to reclaim your spark and create a year that reflects who you truly are—no matter what life throws your way? Join the Crowned Year: Self-Belief Planning Circle—a guided, empowering space designed to help you stay connected to your vision, values, and self-belief all year round. Inside, we plan with purpose, reflect with intention, and rise with courage. It’s not just about goals—it’s about growing into the woman you were always meant to be.

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